So let's talk about feminism today, now before anyone rolls their eyes and leaves this page because its another post about feminism just read this is post because in this I will be talking about true feminism and how it is like growing up like as a girl. So feminism is about getting equal rights as a woman, not becoming more superior than men or trying to make anyone of any gender feel inferior. This work means equality for everyone of any gender. There are a lot of people who say that they are a feminist but they only care about making women superior which is completely understandable because we have been in the inferior sex for a very long time but what is wrong about what they are doing is saying that they are feminist where in fact they are not.
Growing up as a girl everyone ends up becoming a feminist without realizing it because we face a lot of injustice but also many people who don’t understand the inequality don’t appreciate a girl as a feminist. I remember a few years ago my cousin asked me ‘Are you a feminist?’ which is okay but they said it which in such a way that they didn’t want a yes as an answer which should never be the case. They should have been telling me to be a feminist and that I should be standing up for my rights. why is it that the only people who ever fight for equality are the people who are treated inferior; why can't normal men fight for equality for women or the LGBTQ group. Everyone is too busy worrying about themselves and if a problem doesn’t affect them then they don’t give a shit about it. If we want a change then we need everyone to fight for the cause. People need to start realizing that every great person first came from a woman so there is no way that men can be classified as better then women if a women were the ones who gave you your life. I am not saying that all genders don’t fight for equal rights but what I am saying we need to start getting a lot more of everyone fighting for equal rights and everyone making their thoughts public without feeling judged so they can support whatever they truly want to and be educated in the different points of view.
Now I said that I was going to talk about what it is like growing up as a girl. Well to sum it up, it is tough. Everyone has pressure to have the perfect body but I feel that women get it more; obviously, I can’t say what it feels like as a man but I can assume it's not easy either. But as a girl I have heard for my whole life that I need to be going to the gym and that I should be doing sports, whether its for health benefits or for me to get the ‘ideal’ body (mainly ore so I can have a good body and can be attractive) but the minute I want to do a sport like boxing I am not allowed due to the fact that its to masculine. But then I am also not allowed to go out alone because I can't defend myself against someone, like I don’t understand this logic. I don’t understand the logic there because if it was my brother (who happens to be a foot taller then me) he would be allowed to go out and do whatever just solely because he looks tougher and is a rugby player so he can defend himself but I don’t get the chance to learn how to do that. I have also been told that when I’m 19 and I want to go out at night I wouldn’t be allowed and stay out past 11 pm as it is too late just because I am a girl but when my brother does it it is completely normal and it's allowed. Like someone please help me understand this logic. My parents did explain why but it still doesn’t make sense, just because someone else might want to do something to me I can't go out and have fun, because of that little chance. It's the stereotypes that we have to learn to start breaking. We have to start proving that girls are not fragile thongs that cant handle being on their own or taking of themselves, some of us are and that’s okay but the more we make women seem like that the more of us want to become like that because we think it is pointless to try to make a change. People should be taught how to make this society a place that women dint live in on fear, a basic human right for all of us is to live without fear and currently there are so many women who have that human right taken away from them because someone hasn’t understood what ’No’ means and it's causing a ripple effect to everyone. If everyone just starts being slightly more considerate and kinder there will be a lot less these cases.
I feel like when it comes to being a girl and growing up as a girl you have to be a lot more careful with how you dress and you act because if you do the wrong thing you create a bad reputation of yourself which is so unfair because a girl should be allowed to wear what she wants without having to be thought of as conservative or skimpy. We need to stop thinking its the girls' faults and start releasing that a huge common factor is the person who takes things in the wrong way and doesn’t understand no; we need to change their mindset of things and not allow them to do anything. We need to start teaching people to respect women because we are not inferior and neither are we any less important than any other person out there. Feminism means “the advocacy of women rights on the ground of equal sexes” which just shows that a feminist wants the same treatment for all genders. So if women are being allowed to wear a dress and not be judged then so should a man, a man has as much right to wear a crop top and shorts as women do and a woman (and man) should be allowed to wear that without feeling sexualized or judged.
There had been so much positive change towards women in the past century that so many people aren’t educated on. We learn so much about the World Wars in history and how to analyze a book in English but why have we never thought about talking about the important moments for different groups of people. Now admittedly I thought it was kind of common sense and I didn't think that people wouldn’t know dates like when women got the vote and important stuff like that until I was sitting in the dining hall the other day and heard the conversation of the people sitting next to me and the guy sitting there didn’t know who the Suffragettes were and when we got the vote or even how Abraham Lincoln died. This made me realize that people don’t actually know key information like this solely because there is so much that we have to learn in school that it doesn’t allow us to learn the other key information. now when people aren’t actually getting the opportunity to learn about how women have not had any equality in the past and how we still don’t have it right now because it isn’t public information it makes it a lot harder for people to support the feminist campaign and truly understand why it is so important because frankly, they might not have the time is we need to start making it more widely known. We have to try to make it all this information more widely known and get people to actually educated in the history because that is the first step in getting more people supporting is if they know why it is so important. If anyone here follows my Instagram they will see that I try post on my story as much as I can about feminism and equal rights along with a lot of other things and if every person who reads this just posts one thing on their story every few weeks about this it will start making such a big difference as it will start causing more people to learn about everything. Now if you do post something on your story it would be great if you do that and do it about equal rights and feminism but honestly do it about anything that is important you and watch it slowly start making a difference.
Till my next post my lovelies x